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Till your well runs dry."
-The Black Crowes

Thursday, September 25, 2008

On the phone call...and other nonsense

Ok, she called.  I was at Ham's place in Somerville.  She called pretty early.  Around 8.  Her reason that she didn't call last night was that she was at work till 10.  She explained why to me, I'm skeptical.  But she called I guess.  Here's the thing: I don't believe her.  She works at a retail store in Newbury St. as a store manager.  Who are you managing till 10PM?

I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt, but I have to say this: My brother is a bit of a pathological liar, so I've kind of come to a point in my life where it's hard to lie to me without me picking up on it.  Or I'm just paranoid.  Either way, as I said, I'm ignoring that at this point.

I called her back at 10 when I got home.  We made plans for tomorrow night.  I told her I was supposed to hang with some friends, so we're gonna have dinner and then meet up.  Yup, she has to meet my friends.  This should be interesting.

Princess B you bring up an interesting point.  But I don't really know how to change the type of girl that I'm going after.  I see someone.  I think they're attractive, thats the first step.  I go from there.  The problem is, in the last 5 months I'm pretty much 0 for 5 using that method.  I mean, I meet girls, go out with them and have fun, but none of them have been any more than that.  I guess the real question to be asked is why that is a problem?  I guess I'm young, and god knows I've had enough relationships to not HAVE to be in another one so quick.  I think I feel like it's more like a waste of time to just hang out and have sex with someone.  I'm interested to know more, about them and see if there's more to us.

Don't get me wrong, I've been with girls that were just that.  I mean sometimes there's nothing there, and, to use a horrible cliche, it is what it is.  If I knew that about my current situation I would probably be more ok with it.  Instead this one is somewhere in the middle.  I like the girl.  I think she likes me.  It's hard for it to be nothing when you see the person a few times a week.  That's the problem now.

The boss, she was a friend.  It didn't turn into more than that (regretfully in the end) because I treated it as what it was: a few times a month we would hook up.  That I can deal with.  It's this purgatory between casual hook up, and being something more that is making it so hard.

There's my rant for now.  Thanks all again for reading and commenting.

P.S. Where do I find a girl who ISN'T like this?  There's your question.


Lynn said...

Finding a girl who isn't like that? I used to ask myself how to find a guy who isn't a jackass and I think the answer is the same: just waiting. Sometimes you just have to wait if you are looking for something good. But in addition you can't help who you are attracted to, whether they be good or bad. Just live your life I guess, and the right girl will come along eventually when you don't even expect her to.

Good luck with your decisions.

GM said...

I don't really know you more than what I read on here but I will say this based on what I have read.....you need to trust people more.

Don't look at everything she says and wonder what she really means or what she is really doing. If you continue to do that YOU WILL ALWAYS BE DOING IT. And you will probably never settle down with someone.

At the same time you are who you are...but what you are looking for is someone that tells you everything and anything whenever you want it. You want someone who will be 100% open to you instantly and if they don't live up to that then you start to find reasons to move on.

Don't take that or this the wrong way..I am not attacking you by any means.

What I am saying is that you tell this girl that you don't expect anything and you understand that she has other things going on and then as soon as she doesn't do something UP TO YOUR standards and your opinions you try to get rid of her.