Ok, I just wrote and re-read this post, and honestly it comes off horribly. But I am going to post it, unedited. Please tell me what you think:
-Nick
Now, I'm a good looking guy I guess. I've never really had problems getting girls to date. I'd like to think they're more interested in my mind than strictly what I look like, but I can understand that physical attraction is important. However, it seems that in this day and age what is more important is what kind of car you drive, how much money you make and what part of town you live in. I shouldn't complain. I have a job that pays me well, a nice car, and a good place to live, but I don't want that to be what is important. There is so much more to every person than that. It is important to me that a woman is well employed (well paid has nothing to do with being well employed) because that denotes intelligence and motivation. It has nothing to do with the money they make. I make enough to take care of myself. To me it is about who you are, where you've been and where you want to go in your life. Obviously physical attraction has its value, but, quite frankly, it is not my number one priority.
Girls, if any actually ever read this blog, I have a few questions to ask, and the answers would be greatly appreciated by myself, and other readers I am sure.
First, it seems to me that being portrayed as the victim of unfair idealist stereotyping (i.e. blonde, blue eyes, skinny, long legs...etc.) is a card that is played quite often without the slightest hint of irony. Now don't get me wrong, there are insane pressures put on women in modern times, but are you under the impression that men are not put under similar scrutiny? When you see a bald fat man in a bar making eye contact I doubt you go running to give him your phone number, so why are guys "pigs" when we are attracted to attractive women? Would you think twice about dating that good looking guy if he worked at a McDonalds and drove a '76 Chevette? I think you would. I just feel as though there is a bit of a double standard being played here.
Second, why are women in relationships always so needlessly concerned? If I live with you, and I'm coming home to you, why do you feel the need to interrogate me about what I did, where I did it and with whom I did everything that I do? Why is there always the inherent need for conflict that does not exist? No, there is nothing wrong. No, there is nothing wrong. Yes, there is something wrong, you're asking me what is wrong all the time!
I apologize if these questions seem like they're coming from a guy recently out of a relationship, but alas that is all that I am. I am not bitter at all, I am really interested in getting insight into this, as I have trouble comprehending. I'm not a cheater, never have been. Never even considered it. But by the way I've been treated by girlfriends in the past you'd think I was a philandering hussy on the order of Wilt Chamberlain. It is exhausting to be constantly answering questions like an inmate with little or no provocation.
I'm not perfect. I'm far from it I promise you. My last relationship ended because I didn't have the patience to deal with what were legitimate issues that my girlfriend had. I'm not proud of that, in fact I'm disappointed that I couldn't be better for her. A beautiful and wonderful girl that I've met since said she doesn't want a relationship with me, and gave the obligatory "its not you its me" after 3 dates that, honestly, I thought went very well.
It is the human curse to so much love someone you so seldom understand. That is not a quote (that I know of) that is how every relationship I've ever had can be summed up.
1 comment:
Well. I feel your pain, really I do. Losing someone you care about, losing a relationship sucks.
But ...
Philandering hussy?
Dude. Thanks for the laugh.
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